Divorce and Quarantine

Hey so guess what?  Divorce is up 200%!  Does that surprise you?  No?  Me neither.  3 months locked up with anyone will drive you insane.  In an already rocky marriage it can be catastrophic.  Even the celebrities, who have 10,000 square feet to get away from each other and who knows how many acres of land, are getting divorced at an alarming rate.  To those who have maintained their marriage during this very stressful and unknown time- my hat is off to you.  For those who are going through divorce- my heart hurts for you.  

I have had a lot of people reach out to me during this time, citing divorce or separation as the reason.  The stories I’ve read recently have been pretty devastating.  Divorce is so hard. But during a time of pandemic?  Economic volatility?  Political upheaval?  The amount of added stress is mind-blowing.  So please know I am here for you.  If you need some hope, go read my blog on 1 year post-divorce.  I promise you it gets easier!  

If you’re in the weeds, the best piece of advice I can offer is to let it all fall apart.  Thats what someone told me.  Let it fall apart.  Don’t try and control the situation, don’t stress about the future, just try and get through the day to day until it’s finalized.  Let your ex go and focus on yourself and, if you have them, your kids.  If you lose family or friends?  Let them go.  Chances are they weren’t a great influence or presence for you anyway.  It is never too late to start over.  And I can honestly say, from experience, that your new reality that you’ve built yourself will be so much better.  With the future that you’ve chosen and with the people you’ve chosen to live it with.