What I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married

My husband and I just celebrated our 3 year anniversary.  Looking back on our wedding day, I wish I could sit down and tell my bridal self a few things to remember: 

1.  Patience is key.  This has been the hardest for me to learn, as patience is not one of my virtues.  But it’s so important in loving and caring for each other.  Both people in a relationship face different obstacles each day.  Be patient and understanding to each other. 
2. Don’t bring up the past.  It’s in the past for a reason.  Bringing up past fights just make current ones worse. 
3. Love each other fiercely.  You have a lifetime together- make it count. 
4. Don’t stop doing the little things: plan dates, buy a little gift, surprise each other.  
5. Make God a priority: go to church, join a couples’ bible study, read the bible together.  I’ve noticed our relationship is so much stronger when we’re really focusing on the Lord. 
6. Don’t trash talk your partner to other people.  I learned this from Danielle over at Butler Party of 3 (if you’re not following her, you should be).  It demeans your husband/wife not just in your mind, but in others.  
7. Make promises AND keep them.  It can be as little as “don’t go to bed mad”.  Write it down and frame it if you have to, but keep your promises to each other.  Jason and I promised each other that we would get away once a year, just the two of us.  That alone time has been so important to the health of our relationship.
8. Enjoy!  Marriage is a blessing!  God chose this person for you.  Rejoice in that.

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  1. This is awesome advice! Thanks for sharing….definitely put this on my "someday" board on pinterest 🙂

  2. These are so good! We'll be married for four years this October. 🙂 And I must say these all ring true. Thanks for the reminders! Stopping by from The Peony Project.

  3. Such a beautiful post! My husband and I have been married for a year and a half and I couldn't agree more with you! Love your blog- found you through The Peony Project- following 🙂

  4. Love this especially the part about bashing your spouse. We are going on 6 years married and 14 together and I couldn't agree with you more on this post.

  5. Love this post!! I couldn't agree with it more! Especially about patience. I am not very good about being paient, for anything! So this really hit home. Thanks for the great tips 🙂 xx

  6. I think one of the best parts about marriage is the fact that we will always keep learning and growing and making our marriage better, as long as we make that a priority!

  7. These are great tips on how to keep a marriage happy and healthy! I especially agree with #3 and #6!

  8. I'm not married yet, but I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and these ring true even in dating relationships. I cannot wait to marry the love of my life with these things in mind!!

  9. Wonderful tips…marriage is downright hard sometimes and we all need these little reminders!
    CS Gems

  10. Great tips! I'm getting married in the spring 🙂 We already practice many of these.

  11. I'm not married but I def know about #6. My mom has always taught this to me. Usually by using other people who do it as examples. I'd say you don't trash talk any of your family whether it be in person or on social media!
    Southern Elle Style

  12. I'm not married but about a year ago I moved in with my high school sweetheart (we both have already graduated from college) and even though we've known each other and dated for so long patients is totally the key to living with someone and definitely picking your battles! Thanks for sharing!

    Style is Everything

  13. NenyRemit says:

    Wonderful write up, I am not yet married but this will be helpful to me both in my relationship and marriage.

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