Parenting•Reviews
End the Mommy Wars! October 29, 2014
I cannot read another article or blog post in this “Mommy War”. You know what I’m talking about: how being a stay-at-home or a working mom is best for your child, how breastfeeding is the responsible way to feed that child, how attachment parenting makes your child confident and secure, or how attachment parenting is raising a bunch of wussies- and it goes on and on. ENOUGH ALREADY!!!
I’m here to say it: I really don’t care how you decide to raise your kids. It’s your business, not mine. What we should care about is supporting and loving each other. So for all of you moms out there- whether you breast or formula feed, whether your kids eat organic or McDonalds, whether you co-sleep or crib sleep- I think you’re doing one hell of a job. Here’s a cyber hug for doing the very best that you can do; for keeping a tiny human alive and breathing for this long. That in itself is a miracle. I respect and admire each and every one of you.
I never understood this war anyways. People have to do what's right for them and their family.
Fighting over such personal choices is ridiculous to me! I think mothers should support each other as you've said. Mothers all raise their children differently, and they do what's best for them. Great post!
I totally agree. I think it goes to show people's insecurities on how they're raising their children to be honest when they judge others.
I don't have kids but I definitely see this online. I don't know why women need to do that to each other. As long as your kids are happy and healthy then you should be happy. Don't worry about what other people are doing.
Thank you!! I Love this!! I really thing that we should all just support each other because being a Mom is hard work! I wrote something along the lines of being more relaxed titles #momfail on my blog! 🙂
Amanda – Life With Grace
My children are all grown so I don't have a dog, I mean, child in this fight. However, I do remember when I had to have c-sections with my kids because of complications. Some moms tried to make me feel less of a woman because I didn't push those kids into this world. Natural childbirth was all the rage! Please! I exclusively breast-fed the first born and only breast-fed the second one for 3 weeks. The second child has always been healthier. As long as a child is well cared for and safe, who cares about all that "stuff?" Great post!
Mommies shouldn't be judging each other or the way they parent – or anything!
I haven't got any children but i definitely agree about supporting each other rather than being negative!
I agree! We all do what we think is best and works for us. That doesn't make it right or wrong. The thing I think we can all agree on, is we all love our children!
Hear, hear! I'm not a momma but I get overwhelmed by everything that is posted sometimes!
I love this so much! It's hard enough with the guilt and worry we place on ourselves about doing the right thing. We don't need anyone else making the hardest job in the world any harder.
Xoxo,
Summer Ann
http://www.simplysummerann.com
How true and thanks… If we were all raised the same we'd be like robots…
I haven't heard or read about this "war" going on but I couldn't agree more with you. I think it is a matter of minding our own business? (",)
THANK YOU for writing this!!!!! I'm due in January I've been getting sick of this whole competition recently- especially when it comes to vaccines, breastfeeding, diapering and baby food. I hate being told I'll be a "failure" because I'm BUYING diapers and baby food! but I know that there's a bigger picture, and it's not anyone else's business- my hubby and I have made this decision TOGETHER, and its just whats best for us right now!!!
Preach it girl! I am so happy to see somebody write this, I am just OVER everybody thinking THEIR way is the right way. The right way is different for everybody, and as long as children are healthy and alive then keep doing you.
I don't know why people get so riled up over what others are doing. If it's not causing harm to anyone, what does it matter how people choose to live? Let live.
People love to think their way of living is the right one, and love to push it on others. Unfortunately every situation is different, so different outcomes happen. We're all trying to survive, and the Mommy Wars is just tearing us down further!!
You are so right!! Any mother who is making the effort to raise their children is a good mother. I don't feel the hows or the details are any of my business either – it's their choice (and mine). Healthy, Happy and Safe are all that matters to me.
I am with you! End the mommy wars, its so silly! Beautiful pic BTW 🙂
Well said! I'm very happy with the choices I made with my girls but I realize those choices may not work for another family. There's not one right way to raise a family.
I think situations vary and being a mom is always challenging whether being a working one or a stay at home one. What's important is how you manage your time and how you raise the kids and manage the household.
I agree. I have specific ways I want to raise my daughter but don't expect all moms to do things my way.
Everyone's entitled to raise her kid the way she wants. Nobody likes comparisons.
Agree that post, I am a mom too young mom, even if I do not give all my son needs I do love him all of my life, he is one year old now, btw until now I'm breastfeeding to my child.
seriously, so true. We all do out best to raise our children the best way we know how. No one should be judging that.
If all the content on the internet that was moms judging each other suddenly disappeared, chaos would ensue, there's so much of it! Step away from the keyboards, mamas, unless you have something supportive to write.
I couldn't agree more. There is more than one route to take to get to a destination and as long as we raise healthy, happy kids that what's important.
Either route has its challenges so women must support each other. The construct of women bickering must be overshadowed with sisterhood love & appreciation for each other.
Exactly – truer words have never been spoken!
This is an awesome post indeed. You said it better than anyone,. I love that you gave everyone a cyber hug too and I do agree that it doesn't matter how you raise your kids because they are all still alive.
I'll admit, I'm hardcore on BF'ing…for US. I love it, but It's really not my concern how others feed their babies. We're all trying to do what we think is best. I think it's just a matter of being confident in your choices. I don't get involved in Mommy wars despite being passionate about some hot issues because I'm set on the choices we made. They may not work for the next person…
Well said. We should all support each other instead of judging one another.
Thanks for the cyber hug. Totally had McD's tonight. 😀
While I'm not a mom yet, I completely agree! Love your kids and take care of them and don't worry about other parents!
I agree with you 100%. Bottom line, I hope each of us raise a responsible, well rounded human being. The journey will be different for each of us, but we all want the same for our children.