Positive Divorce Series

I ask y’all for content ideas because 1. I want to bring you what you need/want and 2. you all have some fantastic ideas!  I got a message last week from a divorced mom wanting more from the divorced series.  Specifically, she wants success stories and inspiration.  I absolutely loved the idea of a positive divorce series and know SO many women who picked themselves up from the ashes and rebuilt themselves, their careers, and their families.  I’m going to kick this off by sharing my own story, then will continue to share the strong women that I know and love.

So here goes- when I filed for divorce I was wrecked.  Completely and wholly.  I couldn’t eat or sleep.  The burning in my stomach was nonstop from anxiety.  My heart hurt constantly- physically and emotionally.  I tried to put on a brave face for my kids and some days it’s all I could do.  

The day after I filed for divorce my agency dropped me.  So not only was my marriage ending, my salary was gone as well.  I was at rock bottom.  And I stayed there for months.  Some days I didn’t think there was a light at the end of the tunnel.  But as I talked about in this post, I had an amazing support system that lifted me up.  Over and over they were there to hold me up when I couldn’t stand.  They cheered me on.  I got back to work, my ex and I fought hard to find a way to co-parent amicably, and my kids adjusted to the new normal. 

It’s been over a year and I can honestly say I am a better and stronger woman for my divorce.  I learned independence, how to run my business and finances, what I truly enjoyed and didn’t, what I look for in other people (both friends and significant others).  I cut out any unnecessary events and toxic friendships.  It made me simplify and really focus on what makes me happy.  

For any of my lovely ladies going through this right now, or have been through it and are still in the weeds- it will absolutely get better.  Keep fighting, keep working, and most of all keep loving yourself and your family.